Patience is more than a virtue, it’s a necessity! It is a verb; a word of action. Not something you say. It’s something you do! So many times we are critical of other people and impatient with them because they do not handle situations the way we think they should, but consider what’s in you that God is still working on? We all have character flaws, but it is up to us as individuals to ask God to focus on them and deliver us. God will use the very things that you think are flaws in others, to work out the junk in you, and make you better. Patience will come for family, friends, co-workers and acquaintances in the understanding that God is still working on YOU. Your own personal relationship with God is vital.
Exercising patience will bring up many uncomfortable situations. Even in disagreements, disappointments, and hard times you must stay on course. What course? The ‘I AM HAUTE AND HOLY’ course. It’s fine to be angry (without sin), be disappointed, and even need time to gather your thoughts. However, your emotions, your mouth, and your flesh, which are all connected, need to all be brought under subjection to the Father. Failing to do this leads to harmful actions, hardened hearts, bitterness, strife, frustration, and stagnation (emotional, spiritual, and physical).
Keep your feet rooted and grounded in Christ, even when you don’t FEEL like it.
Can we be honest?
We don’t always feel like it! Life just really has a way of beating us up and knocking us down sometimes. However, the truth about feelings is that they are temporary. Be confident in the God you serve and what He has said concerning you and your situation. You may be used to being the provider for your home if you are single, and still have not found work. Be steadfast. Maybe God gave you an idea for a business. Be steadfast. Are you expecting to add a new addition to your family, and it hasn’t happened yet? Be steadfast. “In your patience, possess your souls!” Luke 21:19 Take this time to find out who you really are in God and what He desires from you during this time.
Poor decisions are made when being hasty. According to the ‘Parable of the Seeds’ (Luke 8) good are those who have heard the Word and kept it, and their fruit is bore is patience, not haste. You do not get an academic degree until the graduation requirements have been fulfilled. How will you finish your assignments, meet deadlines, and navigate through the plan of study without patience? Forget about it. God may tell you the promise, but if He told you what you had to endure to get it, would you still do it? What if you could see exactly how the situation was going to play out? Where is the hope in that? How then, will tribulation, work the patience, that yields the experience, that brings the hope?
Tribulation births patience. Patience births experience. Experience births hope, for me and the next woman. Yes, the next woman. (I mean, you do realize your trials are never about you right? It’s all about the next woman. Yeah, her…the one going through the same hell you lived through and conquered through Christ. Help a sista’ out!) God is less concerned with our tribulations, (He knows we will have them), and more concerned with how we handle them.
One good thing about learning patience is discovering the right way to wait. Some would not see this as benefit, but there is a right and wrong way to wait. Are you possessing your vessel in holiness and honor while you wait? Are you working towards the goal while you are waiting for God to bring it full circle? Are you enduring hardships by being distracted by worldly things? Change your attitude about waiting. Is it worth it? I love the account of Jacob and Rachel in Genesis 29. “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her.” Genesis 29:20 ...and that wasn’t all he served, but it was worth it to him! When the promise of God for you, your family, or your circumstances is worth it to you, you won’t get tired of waiting! You will have a sense of hope and expectation realizing, God is the only one who can deliver it, and He will not bring it to pass until the appointed time. When we wait on God with patience He promises that we are blessed, preserved, strengthened, and we will inherit the Earth.
“And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.” (Romans 5:5) We know that hope is eventually a product of patience. When this hope is in God, (not you, your husband, your girlfriends or anybody else) you will never be disappointed. This is one way God protects us. If we experience something, and live through it according to His word, He has taught us something, and the end result will be His will for us, and a blessing to us. You will KNOW this is a blessing from the Lord, “that makes rich adding no sorrow to it”, even if it doesn’t turn the way you expected. “For what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you patiently endure it, this finds favor with God.” (1 Peter 2:20) You want God’s favor over your life! The bible said his anger is but for a moment, but His favor is for life! WHAT A PROMISE! It doesn’t always feel good, and Lord knows it can get tiring, but we have to let patience do its thing.
“But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” (James 1:4) The world wanted you to think that no one is perfect. HOWEVER, God’s word says you can be perfect and complete. Not that you will be without fault or shortcomings, but ‘perfect and complete’ as in just right for God to use for His glory. This does not mean you won’t have problems, or that your walk as believers won’t be continual, and progressive. It means that you will lack nothing when patience has done its work IN you because you will gain experience, know what to do while you wait, and have a hope that will not disappoint. Also, you will find favor with God, His Will is accomplished, you will receive His promises, and you will be equipped to be witnesses for Christ! That is eight benefits of patience in your life! Now if that isn’t haute you tell me what is!